“I always thought I was just bad at life.”

For as long as I can remember, things just felt harder for me than everyone else.

I’d miss deadlines at work even when I cared deeply about the project. I’d forget to reply to texts, zone out in meetings, leave the house without my wallet — again. Friends joked I was “away with the fairies.” I laughed along, but inside I was exhausted. Frustrated. Constantly questioning what was wrong with me.

I tried everything: to-do lists, productivity apps, calendars stuck to the fridge. I bought self-help books I never finished. I’d start fresh every Monday, determined that this time, I’d get it together. But I always fell behind. Again and again.

It wasn’t that I didn’t care. I cared too much — which made it worse. The guilt. The shame. The quiet voice saying, everyone else can manage this. Why can’t you?

I’d heard about ADHD before, but in my mind, it was something hyper kids had. I didn’t fit that stereotype. I was an adult. I had a job. I could hold a conversation. Still… the thought kept tugging at me, especially during tough weeks. Could this be something more?

Then one night — classic me — I was up late, doom-scrolling. I typed in “Do I have adult ADHD?” and stumbled across a site I hadn’t seen before: ADHDTest.co.uk. The homepage offered a free quiz. I clicked it without thinking too much, expecting to get vague results or some generic advice.

But as I worked through the questions, something strange happened: I felt seen.

The quiz didn’t ask about bouncing off the walls or being disruptive in school. It asked about time blindness. Mental overwhelm. Forgetting simple things while your brain is busy on something else entirely. It was the first time I’d seen my day-to-day struggles reflected back at me in a way that actually made sense.

When I got the results, I felt… a little shocked. But mostly relieved. It wasn’t definitive, of course, but it pointed clearly to ADHD being a strong possibility. And it wasn’t just some throwaway quiz — it led straight into real next steps.

I booked an online assessment through the site the next day.

Honestly, that step terrified me. What if I was wrong? What if I was just making excuses? But I couldn’t ignore that small, hopeful voice in my head whispering, maybe there’s finally an answer.

The assessment process was nothing like I feared. No judgement. No awkward clinic visits. It was all online, which felt private and manageable — especially for someone who finds booking appointments and showing up on time ridiculously stressful.

The specialist I spoke to was kind, calm, and clearly experienced. For the first time in my life, I didn’t have to over-explain myself. They got it. We talked through my history, my habits, how I function day to day. It felt like connecting the dots on a picture that had been blurry for years.

And the diagnosis? ADHD — clear and simple.

I thought I’d feel broken when I heard that. But weirdly, I didn’t. I felt validated. Seen. Like there was finally a name for what I’d been dealing with all these years. And better yet — there were ways forward.

Since then, I’ve started treatment. I’ve been learning how to work with my brain, not against it. I’ve got strategies that actually help. Medication that makes a real difference. And I’ve been kinder to myself in a way I never knew how to be before.

Finding ADHDTest.co.uk changed my life. I say that without exaggeration. I’d spent years thinking I just had to “try harder” or “get it together.” Turns out, what I really needed was understanding — and the right support.

If you’re reading this and any of it feels familiar, please know this: you’re not alone. You’re not broken. And there is help — real help, from people who get it.

That first step might feel scary. But it might just be the start of everything finally making sense.